what to do when your to-list makes you want to puke

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Business owners inside the writing community have been trying out a new practice I shared. 

Just one day after I shared this story, I received a voice message after she had tried this just once. 

She said it changed her life and helped her to feel empowered and productive.

Whoah! I realized I was onto something here. 

It’s called…

THE MENU

Fancy I know. Remember menus?

Here’s how it all started…

With the kids 6 weeks (or 45?) or so into distance learning and the fancy schedule landing in the recycle bin by day 1, hour 2, we’d been in a groove. 

Weekdays look like this:

Wake up and eat (and I taught them how to make their own breakfasts)

Schoolwork

Movement

Read for an hour

Journal

Chores

After 1 pm - screen time

This was working quite well and then with “spring break” (whatever that means) and no distance learning we had to fill in some gaps.

I spent Monday morning writing a gorgeous (to me) to-do list. 

It had some things for them to do:

Math - 1 hour

Read for an hour

Watch a documentary and tell me what you learned

Make a picture about what you read earlier

They groaned, slumped their shoulders and went back to bed. And my kids aren’t even sleepers.

All in the name of them staying off screens until 1 pm (a boundary we set around here these days).

Then, I reframed the list for them.

“Consider the list a menu and use this as a list of ideas for what you can do (outside of chores and screen time starting).” 

They dropped their shoulders and the color returned to the face. 

Big exhale.

Yes! A parenting win! 

I shared this story with the Unfussy Writing Community later that morning and some folks loved it.

A menu is fun because it's a list of things you could possibly do. Think of it like a restaurant menu. You're not going to eat the whole thing (well maybe, and no judgment here). But you'll choose the items that will fill you up or satisfy you most. 

Some folks have been testing it out and have even brought their own menus to our writing sessions. 

Why you might like a menu instead of a to-do list:

  • A to-do list makes you want to puke

  • Your Myers Briggs personality type ends in a P (meaning Perceiver). The other letter your personality type would end with is a J (I’m an INFJ and to-do lists are my jam — I looooove a good list). You can find out your personality type free at 16personalities.com 

  • Your list is super long and it makes you feel heavy, panicky, or tired just reading it

  • If you feel like you wrestle with your to-do list, feeling like you should have a plan, and you should start everything that you finish like yesterday

And if you like to see some details or know more, here’s how to make a menu:

  1. Write "menu" at the top of a page and choose the ones that you want to do most in whatever order you like

  2. Write a new menu for tomorrow, including any you didn’t finish today

  3. Throw out the old menu

Have fun with your menu! Just like at a restaurant when you’d have fun and order a few small plates, or live life on the edge and order dessert first. 

And if you give it a try, let me know! I’d love to hear how it works for you!

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Jacqueline Fisch

Jacqueline Fisch is an author, ghostwriter, writing coach, and the founder of The Intuitive Writing School. She helps creative business owners create their authentic voice so they can make an impact on the world.

Before launching her writing and coaching business, Jacq spent 13 years working in corporate communications and management-consulting for clients including Fortune 500 companies and the US government. As a ghostwriter and coach, she’s helped thousands of clients — tech startups, life and business coaches, creatives, and more — learn how to communicate more authentically and stand out in a busy online world.

After moving 14 times in 20 years, she’s decided that home is where the people are. She finds home with her husband, two kids, a dog, a cat, and a few houseplants hanging on by a thread.

https://theintuitivewritingschool.com/
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